Sunday, July 29, 2012

23 july-26 july


23 juillet

Today was a super lax day.  Marzia and I met at the manier to have our weekly planning session with Veronique.  We set up appointments for the week and then went to a bakery to get lunch where I had a tomato and mozzarella and pesto panini.  That afternoon, I called several people to check in on them and see how they were doing.  I talked to Madame Daumas for a while who just loves to talk and talk and talk and talk and talk.  Then I talked to Madame Hernandez who is always listening to classical music and reading good books to keep herself company out in her isolated maison de retraite.  She’s the one that has had alcohol problems and so they have put her somewhere with no stores around.  We talked about music and books that we both liked.  Veronique gave me instructions for the next few weeks since she is leaving on vacation tomorrow.  It’s crazy that I’m almost done here!  I’ve got one more week with Marzia, then a week and a half with a Polish girl, then a half a week in London for the Olympics, then just one week after that and I’ll head to Paris and then fly back home!  Craaaazy!

After work, I went to Rue St Ferreol and wandered around some shops.  I walked through a kitchen appliance store that had some unique stuff that I wanted to get for Alison but it was all like at least 20 euros.  I also walked through some toy stores looking for stuff for the kids but there wasn’t really anything uniquely French that the kids would like.  I’ll have just to stick to my plan of getting them lots of chocolate, which I’m sure will suit them just fine! 

I went to Virgin, the big media store and bought some French music.  Several of the people I visit have recommended this group called Les Pretres to me.  It means the preachers and is a group of 3 catholic priests from Gap, France that sing together and give all of the money made to charity.  They have written gospel lyrics to famous melodies (ex. Swan Lake theme) as well as a neat mix of African, classical, and contemporary in all of their other songs.  The CD is called Gloria, but I doubt it is on iTunes so I will share it with yall when I get back.  I especially think Robert will like it!  I also bought a CD of the French group called Coeur de Pirate.  Also, I found a 3 CD set for 7 euros of “Café songs of Paris” that has lots of old classic French songs which was a treasure find.  Quality purchases!  I may or may not have also bought another pair of shoes on my walk home…but they were cheap and cute!


24 juillet

Today Marzia and I went to visit Madame Bardini..but she wasn’t there.  So we headed to visit Monsieur Jullien who we talked to for about 15 minutes and the whole time he was falling asleep in front of us then waking back up.  So we let him go rest since he said he was really tired and because it’s quite difficult to carry a conversation with someone that is going in and out of consciousness.  So it was a bit of a fail morning.  Marzia and I went and got lunch and then took advantage of our unproductive morning by taking a 1 hour siesta at my apartment.  Then we went to visit Madame Baraboti.  It was her birthday today and so we brought her a celebrity gossip magazine that she had mentioned wanting to read on an earlier visit.  She told us about her son that called her for her birthday and her daughter that was too busy to call.  We dialed the number for Mme to call her sister in Italy who is sick with cancer right now.  The phone call dampened Mme’s spirits so we tried to cheer her up and get her mind off things.  Next we helped her pack her suitcases for her vacation that she is leaving on tomorrow.  She sat in her chair and told us what she needed and where to find it.  I remember when I felt really awkward around old people and with knowing about their daily habits and personal lives but that is all gone now.  I realized afterwards that maybe it should have bothered me to be going through her underwear drawers and packing her sleeping diapers.  But they’re humans too and we’ll all be like that sometime.  We are no better than them! 

Then I headed over to the hotel where Jared leaves to meet up with them to then meet up with some JAs (YSAs) for an excursion to the Calanques.  There were 7 of us that went together.  We took the bus to the end of the line which took us out of Marseille or at least to the very edge of the city.  It took us about an hour to hike down to the Sormiou calanque where we were.  A calanque is basically just an inlet of water that forms a natural bay/harbor/dock area in between huge cliffs/mountains.  The view was spectacular and the water was crystal blue with varying shades of blue as you looked into the calanque.  I had been told that water was super cold but nothing prepared me for the icy shock that I felt as I plunged into the water.  Oh man it still gives me the shivers to think about it.  I came up for air and just kind of screamed at how cold it was!  We swam over to a big rock area thing and my toes felt numb as I clumsily climbed up onto the rock.  After I had gotten up on the rock, I learned the word for sea urchin as someone warned us about them being everywhere!  We basked in the warm sun and got some blood recirculating in our bodies.  Then Jared and I decided to jump off this kind of really high area of the rock into the water.  We counted 1-2-3 to jump in together….and then Jared chickened out and I jumped in alone!  He followed me soon thereafter but I made sure to make him feel really bad for leaving me.  Then we had the bright idea to swim around the entire huge rock thing.  Man it was a lot bigger than it looked when we were in the water.  It was slightly exhausting but was fun nonetheless especially with the incredible view.  I had worn glasses that day and so was slightly blind in regards to far away objects and so had to have Jared explain to me what the black blob in the distance was that ended up being a flag on a buoy.  I also found out that Jared is deathly afraid of sharks and so I’m glad there are apparently none of those in the Mediterranean…or so I’ve been told, and I’ve chosen to believe it.  We were quite exhausted and frozen after swimming around the rock and so we got up on the rock to rest a bit before swimming back to shore.  But oh man, our feet were frozen and our muscles were tired.  Jared’s legs just started trembling and wouldn’t stop because they were so exhausted and cold.  We warmed a bit, but Jared just kept trembling.  We decided to get it over with and plunged back into the cold water and made it to shore where my towel felt like the warmest thing I had ever touched.  We saw some cute little crabs on the rocks!  But luckily, no sea urchins.  The hike back out was a bit painful since we were climbing uphill this time.  My legs felt like they wanted to fall off…but we made it back all safe and sound and caught the bus back into town.    


25 juillet

I hope you are noticing my deteriorating English…I went back and read some of my journaling from the beginning of the month and marveled at my flawless sentence structure and large vocabulary.  All my sentences are now formed in the order of a French sentence and it takes effort to rewire them to correct English sentence structure.

So Marzia, as an adopted Spaniard is quite lazy as it is the culture over there.  You think French people are lazy…just talk to a Spaniard about their daily schedule.  And it is kind of really rubbing off on me.  Marzia groans when there are stairs rather than an escalator coming up out of the metro…and so do I now.  Anytime we have to walk up a hill to an apartment building, we have to take a rest in front of the apartment building for 5-10 minutes to rest and for Marzia to smoke a cigarette before we go in.  During our lunch break…a little siesta nap is quite necessary even if it is in the shade of a tree in a park.  And so today was a manifestation of my increasing laziness in accordance with Marzia.  We didn’t set our first appointment until 11:30…and we got there at noon.  These elderly people are usually just sitting in front of their tv all day so it doesn’t matter much if we are late or early.  We stayed at this lady’s house from 12-1 and then went and bought some food and lounged in a park for an hour.  Then we went to this gentleman’s house and talked to him for an hour.  Afterwards, we went to Mme Elena’s apartment and she wasn’t there and so we got on the bus and were done with work at 3:30!  But we get to make our own schedule every day so I guess we just like to concentrate all the visits together. 

Our first visit was with Madame Graziani.  She was in better spirits today than we usually find her.  She even joked around and teased us a bit which was happy.  I had brought more batteries for her handheld fan but she had lost the little cap that goes on the end of the fan to hold the batteries so we searched for that and weren’t able to find it…but she said she would keep looking for it.  She watches tv a lot and so I found the London Olympic opening ceremonies in her tv guide book and let her know what channel it would be on and what time it would start.  They start at 20:50 this Friday night here!  I have since been trying to figure out where I could watch it…no success yet, but I’ll figure it out. 

Our next visit was to Monsieur Giacopino who we had never visited before.  He is like 80% blind but is healthy besides that.  He is 90 years old and has never been married, never had children.  He apologized for how dirty his apartment was because he couldn’t really see it well enough to clean it and he had house help come and clean twice a week.  He just talked and talked and talked which is I guess what he needed.  He showed us pictures of a little chateau that he went and stayed at when he went on vacation with les petits frères.  He also talked about his relationship a couple of years ago with an elderly person that was looked after by the petits frères organization in Toulon or Toulouse…I don’t remember which one.  It was quite a dramatic story filled with jealousy of her ex-husband and her not believing that he had never been married before.  I’m sure there were happy moments of their relationship…but we mostly heard about the not pleasant break up. 

Sitting at the bus stop, Marzia and I were lamenting over how we missed having Maxime with us.  We just have so many memories working with him and so it’s weird not having him there!  We called him and left an annoying we miss you message on his phone.  He texted us back later that night and said « Marzia tes retard me manque (un peu) Melissa cest ton nez (et tes valeurs aussi). J’espere que tout va bien et que vous apportez toujours autant de bonheur aux gens. Bisou ! »             Which roughly translated is: “Marzia, I miss your tardiness (just a little bit).  Melissa I miss your nose (and your values too).  I hope that all is going well and that you’re bringing as much as always to people.” 

Oh Maxime, always being so awkwardly frank!            

Getting home was a bit of a process because the subway line I was on got closed down for a while so I had to make a detour and take the tram home instead.  The tram went by the Reformes metro stop and there were a bunch of ambulances, police cars, and such.  I asked the missionaries about it when they happened to get on the tram a bit later and they said that someone probably jumped into a metro track or fell in…apparently that happens every few months since there are no glass doors in front of the tracks. 

A funny thing about the Subway here is they only have one cheese option…and in America there are several.  You’d think it’d be the opposite. 


26 juillet

Today started out with a lunch for all of the summer international volunteers.  We first sat in a circle and talked about issues or problems we had run into throughout our visits and discussed possible solutions.  It was interesting to hear some of the other people’s stories.  One volunteer companionship had gone to this guys house where there were cockroaches allllll over the apartment and all over the walls and furniture…the one girl could not handle it and got up and left…scary.  Jared said that he visited a woman that hadn’t been out of her apartment for 4 years and so he took her out in her wheelchair and they walked around her neighborhood and she was so excited to see what had changed in those 4 years.  Marzia and I brought up our issues of people not wanting to see us when we get there or forgetting about the appointments we’ve made and not being home. 

Marzia and Alba, two volunteers our age from Spain cooked lunch for all of us!  I had never even thought about what kind of food they made in Spain so it was fun to be exposed to that.  They had made a bruscetta (obviously called something else) with tomatoes and ham.  We also had fried eggplant slices which were sooo good!  I have never eaten so much eggplant/squash/zucchini before this summer and I love it.  Then they made this salsa-ish vegetable salad thing they called pesto (but wasn’t Italian pesto) that had tomatoes, eggplant, zucchini, garlic, and other vegetables.  Then we had tortillas which are NOT like tortillas in America.  It was like a big quiche looking thing made of fried potatoes and eggs…it was a big circle thing at the end and they just cut it into pizza slices…super fascinating.  I will definitely be asking Marzia tomorrow exactly what they put in everything. 

Marzia and I didn’t have any visits to do during the afternoon so I went and worked with Jared who was going to a thing called a gouté which is just a gathering where there are treats and games and coffee.  The “activity” for the gouté was making chocolate chip cookies since that is an “American” thing.  We didn’t have any measuring cups and Jared had a recipe in English so it was in cups and tablespoons rather than the metric system.  Thus the measuring of ingredients consisted of lots of guesstimation.  After finishing the cookie dough, we tasted it and it was really gross…it tasted like flour and was super dry.  So we put in more water to try and thin it out.  That kind of helped, but not really.  Then I had the thought to make sure Jared had put in the salt.  And alas no!  We put the salt in and it was much better, but still not the best batch of cookies ever made…but that’s what you get with so much guesstimation I guess.  We cooked the cookies in this little oven and figured out that it should probably be at 200 degrees Celcius…but we weren’t positive.  After figuring out that you have to re-turn on the oven after every time you open the door, the cookies finally cooked and worked out fine but weren’t the best display of true chocolate chip cookies.  We had the cookies and these other cakes as well as drinks and just all sat and chatted.  This building we were in is owned by the Petits Freres and provides apartments for people that have previously been homeless and living on the street at a cheaper rent price.  Later in the afternoon, Jared played Scrabble with this lady that asks to play scrabble with him every week!  It is challenging for him in French and there are always words played that he doesn’t know.  I played a piano that was in the room.  It was a super bad sounding piano but oh well. 

Tonight was FHE!  The other mission companionship taught about charity, service, and forgiving.  Sister Rutman made Belgian waffles tonight!  She used a recipe that Jared had gotten from his mission in Belgium.  She also used these large sugar crystals that are an essential ingredient for true Belgian waffles and that can only be bought in Belgium.  They can just be eaten plain they are so good.  We played some group games afterward. The first one was called Assassin and consisted of one person standing in the middle of the circle trying to guess who IT was and IT was winking at people to kill them.  When you got killed, you just laid down on the floor.  The person in the middle would try to guess who IT was before they got around to killing everyone.  The second game we played is called “how’s yours?”  I’ve played this one at BYU but there was an added element of complicatedness when playing it in French.  In the game, there is someone in the middle and they go around asking everyone “what’s yours like” or how’s yours” and each person describes how “theirs” is (a predetermined object) and the person in the middle is trying to guess what the object is.  But in French, simply saying the phrase “It is” gives a clue to what the object is as you would use different words depending on if the word is masculine, feminine, singular, or plural.  So we decided to generically use the masculine form to describe things and use the masculine form of adjectives just to keep things as vague as possible.  It was funny sometimes though using a masculine form an adjective to describe something that was a feminine object just because it sounded so wrong.  In French, every noun is either masculine or feminine and doesn’t have anything to do with its function, but is seemingly random. 

After playing games, we went back upstairs and talked to the Rutmans for a while.  Jared and I acted as translators when there was a complicated phrase that the Rutmans didn’t know how to say in French or when they didn’t understand something a JA said.  The Rutmans showed us pictures of them when they were young.  Elder Rutman told us some stories of being a policeman that included wrestling in the middle of the road with a man that had a knife and exciting drunk driver episodes.  All the JAs kept asking him if his job was just like all of the American police tv shows and Elder Rutman would always respond no, that it wasn’t as glorified as all that and that there were lots of sad moments.  I don’t remember who it was or when it was, but someone asked me if high school in America was just like it is in the tv shows with the cheerleaders and football players everywhere…ha!  I responded ya…I guess so.  

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

a few pictures!

A group of us YSA people that went to the Calanques together.  This is at the end of the day after the sun had mostly gone down. Jared, Florian, and I swam around that huge rock back behind us...it's a lot bigger than it looks and was a bit exhausting but worth it.

At Notre Dame de la Place

At the Marseillaise memorial museum
A lady I love--Mme Dernaucourt there on the left

With Mme Daumas and the birthday cake we brought her

Marzia and I on our lunch break making good use of our lunch checks with profiteroles

Jared and I out on the big rock that we swam to at the calanques

Prettty calanques!

20 july-22 july


20 juillet        
Friday, Friday, Friday! I am always exhausted by the end of the week although I feel like I shouldn’t be since my schedule is relatively calm compared to my normal school life schedule.  But nonetheless, Friday is always a welcome day.  My favorite thing these days is to wake up a few minutes earlier and go and get a freshly baked baguette or pastry at the bakery across the street in the morning to have for breakfast. 

Today we had just one visit to do with Madame Dernaucourt.  Maxime and I were waiting for Marzia to show up at our meeting spot and he got down on one knee to pick something up, then looked up at me and smiled and said “Je suis à tes pieds” (I am at your feet)…I rolled my eyes and laughed at him at another attempt of his to woo me.  By the way…my formation of English sentences really is horrible these days…my verb/pronoun/everything placement is all coming in the French order, but in English.  Bear with me. 

We went to Monoprix and bought ingredients to make a meal with Mme D.  We pasta, sauce, mozzarella, salad, bread, vinaigarette, wine (thank goodness Marzia knew about what wine went with what food, because I am no help in that area), tomatoes, and then a cantaloupe for dessert.  We went to Mme D’s apartment and Marzia was the head chef in cooking the pasta since that is her deal/country.  Maxime and Marzia continued their constant dialogue of arguing about whether French or Italian cuisine is better.  Marzia boiled the water, then added the salt to the water, put in the tortellini for one minute, then put it in the bowl where she had mixed the sauce with water and mixed the pasta together with it.  I assume these are legit methods since she makes this in Italy.  Mme D sat in her wheelchair in the kitchen doorway and guided us around her kitchen by telling us what pan or knife was in what drawer or cupboard.  She was very proud of herself that she had set and prepared the table all by herself!  I was very impressed too because it looked immaculate with fancily folded napkins and everything.  She is paralyzed on one side of her body so I was impressed that she got along and got it all done herself. 

We ate lunch in the usual leisurely way with eating slowly, and about 20 minutes of resting and talking between each course.  Mme D played some of her favorite CDs for us during dinner.  She showed us an Israeli singer that she really liked that reminded me of the Jewish songs we danced to on the boat on the Sea of Galilee.  Next, we watched a Pagnol film called La Fille aux puisatiers.  I had already watched the film with her, but did not mind watching it again to show to Marzia and Maxime.  Mme D served us blackberry ice cream in her fancy ice cream dishes.  After the film, we cleaned up and washed all of the dishes then sat down to cold refreshing drinks and chatted some more.  Mme always makes sure to have orangina for me because she knows I don’t drink alcohol, tea, or coke.  What a sweetie.  I always seem to better enjoy the days when we do fewer, but longer visits like today rather than lots of shorter visits.  I had to try and explain baptisms for the dead to Maxime because he brought up that some French people got mad at our church for baptizing famous deceased people without asking permission.  It was difficult to explain…but I think I communicated the idea pretty good. 

Afterwards, I said to bye to Maxime because he is going back to Gap (dans les Hautes-Alpes) to be with his family for the summer break.  He gave me a hug and thanked me for sharing with him stuff about my religion and wished me the best of luck with the future.  Later, he sent me a text that said « Et Melissa je voulais te dire aussi que tu as l’air d’une fille super avec des valeurs et qui se respecte.  Et ca devient rare ! Be happy J Bye bye. Bisou.»  Roughly translated, that says Melissa I also wanted to tell you that you are a great girl with values that you keep and respect.  And that has become rare!  It made me feel good that I was able to be a missionary example to him.  He will always remember the example that I set and the standards that I have.

Next I headed down to the church for the film night.  I loved again coming there and feeling at home with all of the JAs and the Rutmans.  Soeur Rutman made delicious pizza for everyone and we watched the final Lord of the Rings that was like 4 hours long.  So now I just need to watch the very first one, and then I’ll finally have watched all of these movies.  It was quite an intense/scary/violent movie, but I enjoyed it nonetheless. 


21 juillet    
    
Saturday!  Stephanie and I made plans to sleep in and did just that.  We headed out into town around 11 and did some shopping!  We went to Rue St Ferreol which is like a huge outdoor mall with a pedestrian only road and clothes stores lining the street.  There are mandatory month long sales going on at all of the stores in France right now.  Most things are marked down 40 or 50 percent!  I bought a cute pair of heels, two dresses, and two blouses.  Don’t worry…they weren’t expensive.  We wanted to eat lunch at the Subway up the street, but when we got there it was closed.  All of the lights were on, all the food was in the glass case…the door was just locked and there wasn’t anybody there.  It was supposed to be open too…so French just to close a store for a while in order to have a lunch break because they felt like it.  We got lunch at a bakery and I got a small pizza, orangina, and a delicious raspberry tart sprinkled with powdered sugar and filled with delicious vanilla yogurt custard…dang I’ll miss these so much. 

Next we wanted to go out and see the Calanques.  We didn’t know a whole lot about where they were located or which one of the many was the best to go to, so we picked one that was easiest to get to by bus.  We took the first bus and had a beautiful along the coast of the city and saw people everywhere on the beaches and out windsurfing or boating.  At the end of the bus ride, we had about a 30 minute wait until our next bus came and so we walked down to the shore and found some cute fishing boats and people out lounging on their boats.  We also found an awesome rocky shore line with some awesome big rocks and crashing water on the rocks.  We got some good pictures and I tried to get a little mermaid picture where she pops out on the rock and the water is splashing around….it didn’t work out very well because one I don’t look like a mermaid and it was too dangerous to go all the way down to the level of the water…but it turned out to be a hilarious, quite dumb looking picture J.  We got on our next bus and had a windy, curvy ride with incredible views of cliff formations and the shore line and mountains.  I keep thinking I’ve seen the best view possible of the Mediterranean Sea…but then I am impressed even more the next day with another view.

We arrived at the Callelongue Calanque.  A calanque is an inlet of water between two large cliffs/mountains that makes a natural harbor and the calanques are known for beautifully clear water and beautiful views.  Callelongue was a cute little fishing village with a calanque surrounded by huge rocks perfect for sunbathing and relaxing.  Stephanie weren’t feeling like plunging into the freezing water since it was around 6 in the evening so we found a peaceful location up on some rocks and just relaxed.  We talked and enjoyed the view and watching huge cruise ships pass by pretty constantly out in the distance.  We took the bus back into Marseille and walked around the Prado beach which is the biggest beach in Marseille.  There was a group of African people singing and dancing that we watched for a while.  The shore line was beautiful again but again very cold.  We took the scenic bus route home and drove around the famous Corniche Kennedy which is a famous promenade around the mountain with Notre Dame de la Garde along the coast line.  The sun was just starting to set and there was a patch of rainbow in the sky next to the sun that I attempted to capture on my camera.  We drove past a cool arch memorial that is for the Marseillaise that died in colonizing the area…at least that’s what the girl on the bus told me. 

We went home and tried to watch a movie…but I fell asleep about a half hour in…so watching movies is just not possible for me here.  I never sleep very well at night here and I’m not really sure why.  Starting at like 3 in the morning, I am just awake every half hour or so and have a hard time getting back to sleep…so I usually cannot keep my eyes open anymore starting around 11.   


22 juillet     

Stephanie and I were determined to be on time to choir today and so we left home around 7:50 in order to be at church by 8:40.  But of course, we got texted as we were on our last transportation device to church that choir was cancelled.  Ha.  But it was fine because we just went up to the JA center to use internet.  I played piano for Relief Society and also said the opening prayer.  I also played piano for sacrament meeting again.  I have come to appreciate the bisou now and it doesn’t make me feel awkward anymore.  It’s just part of the culture of loving people and it seems that people are always so excited to see each other and to see me.  The bisou makes sure that everyone says hello to everybody when they come and then say bye again when they leave.  Kind of cool.  In sacrament meeting today, the guy who spoke at the end really impressed me with his talk and testimony.  He talked about how he had been baptized in the 1970s in Marseille and also talked about his experiences in meeting the First Presidency in SLC.  I finally put two and two together when I found out afterwards that he was recently called as the first counselor in THE presiding bishopric.  Super cool that he came to speak and that his whole story started in this city.  I was listening to his talk and enjoying it and then all of a sudden realized that I was easily understanding every word he said…happy feeling J

After church, Stephanie and I ate a lunch that we had packed that morning and then went to the Memorial de la Marseillaise which is the museum about the French national hymn/anthem.  It is called the Marseillaise because it was written by a man in Marseille and was sung by soldiers marching from Marseille to Paris on their way to join the revolutionary forces in the 1790s.  I was very impressed with the museum and how well organized it was and the technology that was used.  The first room showed newspaper pages from the times of the revolution.  It also talked about how there are like 50 different versions of the Marseillaise—there are different lyrics with the differing provinces of France and the differing social classes of the time.  They had recorded videos of all these different versions being sung by people dressed in period clothing.  Amusing to watch/listen to.  Then the next room was this video up on the screen, but there were these 3D faces/heads around the bottom of the screen that represented different people or groups of people.  Their faces were an animated screen of some sort and the mouths/faces moved when they talked.  It was legit super creepy, but funny and entertaining.  It was cool that they gave the perspectives of different social classes of people in regards to the revolution and its events.  So that movie told about the events leading up to the writing of the song.  And then the video ends and this epic choral version of the Marseillaise starts playing in the next room…the doors to the next room magically open and you walk into this old stone room (an old jeu de paume room which is a tennis court but has significance for the revolution because important oaths/decision were made in the jeu de paume).  So the Marseillaise is epically playing and was legit super inspring.  Then this video presentation starts, but there are four different walls/types of screens in the room and they are all showing different, but correlating pictures, videos, or text.  It was really cool and I was thoroughly impressed! Good job France.  The videos were basically a review of the French revolution section of my French history class and it correlated the marseillaise and how it represented the values emphasized in that period and in the droits des hommes document (their version of a declaration of independence). 

Next Stephanie and I headed to the other big cathedral in Marseille called Notre Dame de la Major.  Remember that Notre Dame means our lady (talking about virgin Mary) and so basically every town in France has at least one notre dame church/cathedral.  It was a super big and super pretty!  As always, these cathedrals are always incredibly ornate but definitely void of the spirit for me.  There were these incredibly beautiful  red doors with light blue decoration at the front of the church and so Stephanie and I had a mini photo shoot and I tried to set up Stephanie in some model-ish poses, but I’m pretty sure that made her uncomfortable…haha but we both got some good photos.  After we had toured the church, we came back out and I put my camera on a setting that makes the colors super super vibrant and got some more good pictures.  A cool thing about the church was that the stained glass had lots of light purple and light blue which are colors that are kind of representative of the Provence area of France with all of the lavender and the sea/blue clear sky.

Stephanie and I came back to the apartment and just chilled and caught up on journal writing and then went to McDonalds to use the internet…my feelings for McDonalds have grown a lot fonder this trip for their lifesaving free Wi-fi and air conditioning.  A highlight of the night was getting to talk to Dad and Matthew on the phone over the Tango app on our phones.   That hasn’t worked successfully the whole time I’ve been in France so hooray again for McDonalds!  I’m very neutral about my trip in France coming to a close.  I know that I will miss it and that France will always have a special spot in my heart for what it has done for me this summer and the beauty that it has shown me.  But I am also looking forward to coming home and seeing the fam as well as my friends and getting back into Psychology which I have missed this summer.  Oh, and I also am looking forward to having easier communication access J.

Monday, July 23, 2012

17 july-19 july


Sooooo the bad news is that I haven't been very good at journaling this week...so I am quite behind.  BUT the good news is I was better at taking pictures!!


17 juillet

This morning we visited Madame Elena who is just increasingly deaf every time we visit her.  But she is always happy to see us and loves talking to us when she understands what we say.  We also visited Madame Graziani where we talked about Thanksgiving in America and Christmas traditions in France among other things.

We also did a visit at the CGD and visited M. Berney who like always, talked to us about WWII.  He got out an old suitcase and showed us pictures of him in the French army and his ID cards from that time.  He asked me a lot about what I thought of the political situation and the upcoming elections in the states.  I’ve been away from the states for so long that I have to search in my brain and switch around my mind to that part of my life and what it’s like there.   

Oh la la, what do you do when a French boy is in love with you?  Maxime has fallen for me and I do not reciprocate.  He has a girlfriend but notified us that he is not in love with her and isn’t going to be with her for very much longer.  He told Marzia though, who told me, that he wasn’t going to talk to me about how liked me because it was too complicated since we wouldn’t see each other ever again after this week.  Talk about complicated!  Unfortunately, he’s a super good looking, super nice guy.  But no worries, nothing will happen as it is extremely impractical and I do not speak good enough French to have a relationship with a French boy!  But at least he will probably keep coming to church stuff with me when I invite him! Ha. J  This week Maxime has asked me if Mormons are allowed to wear perfume, go swimming, and dye their hair.

After work, I walked around downtown a bit and bought some more postcards to send to people.  Then Stephanie and I did laundry, so exciting!  Our accomplishment for the evening was that we memorized La Marseillaise which is the French national hymn/anthem.  It was written during the 1789 French revolution and is quite a violent song that makes use of an excellent verb: egorger, which means to slit someone’s throat.  Unfortunately the sheet music that I purchased of the song is in quite a high range…and so with our windows open, and both of us loudly singing these really high notes…I’m glad that no neighbors got mad at us. 


18 juillet

This morning started with a visit to Madame Bardini who we had not visited before.  She gave us glasses of water…I took one sip and felt sick to my stomach as it tasted like it smelled…like the sewer.   Plus the cup was dirty.  Luckily she didn’t notice that I didn’t drink anymore.  Oh man all Madame Bardini talked about was amour! (love)  She had each of us discuss our current relationship status, why it was that way, how we had come to that point, if we were satisified with it or not, and what our relationship status outlook for the future was.  When it came my turn, she was shocked as most people here surprisingly are that I am single.  She made sure that I did like boys and asked why I wasn’t dating anyone.  I told her that I hadn’t found someone I liked enough yet and that it was hard for me to put complete confidence and trust in someone for a relationship.  She agreed with me and told me I should find a boy in France.  Maxime jokingly asked me if I would ever date him…I laughed it off and rolled my eyes pretending it was a joke…even though it might not have been in his head.  Madame Bardini told us her whole love life story.  She married a 35 year old when she was 19 and they were together his whole life, but she is now widowed. 

We ate lunch at this Italian restaurant that we had seen in a centre commercial last week.  Marzia was in heaven with the little breadsticks they gave us and all of the Italian words in the menu.  She ordered a Pizza margherita and I ordered a Pizza with jambon and champignons on it.  Afterwards, Marzia and I made good use of our lunch checks and ordered Profiteroles which I looooove.  It’s a like a ginormous cream puff with ice cream in the middle.  There were three of them with hot fudge and whipped topping on top and on the side.  Dellliiiish.  I recounted La Marseillaise to Maxime and was proud of myself that I knew it better than him. 

We went to visit Mme Chassefiare but when we called her to know which building of the complex she was in, she said that because we were a bit late, she did not want to see us.  Sometimes old people are grumpy.  We went to CGD to visit two ladies.  The CGD is the least depressing of the nursing homes I have been to.  I think the cutest thing about nursing homes in my opinion is when there old people couples that sit and talk together.  Apparently it is a common thing for people in these homes to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in the same complex or in a different complex.  Every once in a while, there are marriages that come out of these relationships. 

We first visited Bernadette Medina.  The first time I met Bernadette, I was a little bit scared because of her experience, but I was prepared for it this time, and I was totally at ease with her.  Marzia, on the other hand, was meeting her for the first time and was a bit scared and wouldn’t talk to her the whole time.  Bernadette has one tooth I think and is a very hunched over, wrinkled person.  Marzia told me that she thinks she looks exactly Gollom, which is extremely mean, but unfortunately slightly true.  Bernadette has lived in the CGD nursing home complex since the 1970s!  She carries around a lighter and asks everyone she sees for cigarettes, but I’m assuming she is not allowed to have them or has already used up her quota for the week.  She is not all there in her mind and it is very hard to understand her.  I took my piano books and we led her up to the music room and I played some Debussy songs for her.  I think she fell asleep during them but her head would always pop back up at the end and she would clap for the song and always be willing to hear another one.  I played La Marseillaise for her and she sang along for the first part of the song.  Maxime had told me that morning that if I played piano for him, he would probably fall in love with me…awkward.  I made sure to not look at him at all while I was playing piano.  We tried to walk her back to her room, but she led us to other places in search for someone with cigarettes.  She hardly we noticed we said goodbye. 

Next we visited Madame Gallet who is 100 years old! (centenaire)  She is very healthy for being 100 and is mentally still all there.  She talked to us about her kids and about things she has done with les Petits Freres.  She was very happy that we had come to visit her. 

Tonight Stephanie and I met up with Jared and we went to prendre une verre and had Orangina at a café and talked about work and school and such.  Then we took the ferry from Vieux Port to Pointe Rouge which was just as beautiful as the first time we had done it.  We had a gorgeous view with the sunset.  Then we went to the gelato place that Stephanie and I had found last week.  This time I got strawberry and nutella! 


19 juillet

Today I went with a year round benevole named Lucien (retired naval officer) and we went ensemble to do a first screening visit for a man that called with interest in participating with the petits frères.  This man was named Monsieur Jullien and he is very physically healthy but speaks very slowly and stumbles a bit when he talks because of a stroke he had.  But he forms beautiful sentences with impeccable grammar and sentence structure.  Come to find out, he is very well educated and received the highest degree possible in the natural sciences (biology, physical science, botany, etc.).  His wife lives in a health facility and he is very alone in his apartment.  He visits his wife once a week, but other than that, he goes days without speaking to one person.  He told us frankly that he has little morale and motivation and is very depressed.  We are going to help him and I will be visiting him once a week for the rest of the summer and he is going to the festival days at the manier for the meal and entertainment.  What a sweetheart, I’m so glad we can help him. 

This afternoon, Maxime and I took Monsieur Daoudi on a sortie (outing) to the seaside at Pointe Rouge.  We had some trouble in getting his wheelchair to fit in the car, but we figured out…I was just quite squished in the back seat with it.  Monsieur Daoudi is such a sweetheart.  He is physically handicapped but is still extremely smart and speaks great English as a result from studying at Cambridge and living in England for 20 years.  He was excited to hear that I was going to visit Cambridge in a few weeks and that I’d be in London for the Olympics.  Man you never realize how horrible sidewalks are until you are trying to maneuver a wheelchair.  We found a café and I ordered delicious ice cream while M. Daoudi ordered a Pina Colada..I politely declined his offer to share.  Marseille has been super weird with this really low fog everywhere that is quite creepy.  On the way home, M. Daoudi was sure that he knew the way to go, and so he would be giving Maxime different directions than what the GPS told us to do…one time Maxime listened to what M. Daoudi told him to do in order to be polite and just because he was so confident in himself…ya that led us on a 20 minute detour down the highway then back up it to return to where we had originally been.  M. Daoudi had us stop at a tabac on the way back so that he could submit his lottery guesses and buy more cigarettes.  He smokes heavy duty exotic cigarettes with a very high class smell.

Maxime is super good at building my confidence, because everything I say to him, he laughs at and any French mistake I make, he finds cute…which is a bit annoying, but whatever I’ll take it.  He came with me to FHE…and I’m not really sure how much of it had to do with him being interested in the church…probably about 1%.  I taught him how to fold his arms and bow his head for the prayer…and then head to unfold his arms after the prayer because he kept them folded, unsure if the prayer was over.  Elder Rutman taught the lesson about having goals and making changes in our lives.  Soeur Rutman made us delicious scones!  She had nutella, jam, cinnamon sugar, and other yummies to put on them.  I may or may not have eaten like 4.  I just love hanging out with Elder and Soeur Rutman…they make things feel like I’m at my house with my family.  Maxime enjoyed meeting and talking to some real French mormons.  We played some group games…one of which was this lighthouse/boat/staring game which was confusing at first, but turned out to be fun.  Maxime and I always have fun joking around and talking, I’ll miss him!  Later, while Stephanie was using the internet, Jared taught me how to play rummy and he schooled me but is known to cheat quite often.  

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

10 July-16 July

I promise I've taken lots and lots and lots of pictures!! But it just takes years to upload any pictures and my hour of internet time that I get every few days always goes too fast.  But I'll do my best to upload some more later this week.  :)


10 juillet
Stephanie and I took the boat from Vieux Port down the coast to Pointe Rouge.  It was such a beautiful and peaceful half hour journey.  There was plenty of delicious wind whipping our hair around and spectacular views.  I stared down into the water for a while watching the boat splashing into the water and breaking the blue blanket and making white chaos.  I wondered how I ever survived life without living by a sea or ocean.  It was about 8:30 at night and the sun had begun to set and cast a beautiful reflection on the clear blue water.  We arrived at Pointe Rouge and went to find this Gelato place called Gelato Nino that my Marseille guide book had recommended.  It turned out being a winner with about 40 flavor options!  Some fun ones were speculoos, poppy (the flower), kinder, mars, snickers, lichi, and bubble gum.  I ended up getting a scoop of ferrero rocher (those delicious truffle thingies) and raspberry.  I always have to get a chocolatey flavor and a fruity flavor to keep the flavors and richness balanced J .  Stephanie and I started walking back west along the beaches.  There were people and groups everywhere picknicking and having a good time.  We had a lovely stroll down to Prado beach just enjoying the sun set and the cool night air.    


12 Juillet
Oh man what a day.  Marzia and I started out with a visit to Madame Baraboti who lived in an apartment near Rond-Point du Prado.  What a woman!  Marzia and I both fell in love with her.  She is paralyzed on her left side as a result of her stroke.  We helped her into her chair when we got there and had a great conversation with her.  She is Italian but has lived in France for 50 years.  She was so typiquement French as she said things franchement to us things that Americans just don’t really say out loud.  For instance she complimented or criticized different features of my or Marzia’s body which was hilarious because she was so serious and direct about it.  She complained about the loud noises outside caused by the construction.  We read our horoscopes in the newspaper.  We read a catholic prayer out loud that she had on a post card by her chair.   She told us about how the mosquitoes annoy her at night but demonstrated how they fly around her ear and then she smashes them.  She bantered with her housemaid about foods that she did and didn’t like.  She told us about her children and how they don’t come to her visit much.  She gave us sugar free Cokes to drink since she is diabetic.  She told us about how she, like always, will be alone on the July 14 (the French national independence day/holiday).  Marzia is going to go spend some time with her during that day so she won’t be alone. 

Marzia and I went to the manier for lunch hoping that there would be some food that we could have.  When we were in luck as they had a big spread of food for a group that was eating there and they demanded that we jump right in and eat along with them.  Delicious provencale pasta as well as a couscous salad, and shrimp.  After the meal, I talked for a while with Vladimir, the manier chef.  He is Venezuelan but married a French woman and so lives here.  He speaks Spanish, English, and French as he also worked in the states for as while as a chef.  His name is Vladimir because his Grandma loved socialism and so she wanted to give him a Russian name.  I told Vladimir that my dad lived in Venezuela for two years and that led to talking about the church.  Vladimir said that his grandparents converted to mormonism and that he had read the Book of Mormon out of curiosity.  He said that he really liked the principles that are taught in it.  He thought that Joseph Smith had written the book, but I cleared it up for him that Joseph Smith didn’t write, but translated it into English from the ancient text.  I went up and played with Danielle’s adorable dog who gave me lots of bises. 

I’ve learned several things about Spain in talking to Marzia:
-the minimum wage is 3 euros
-things are super cheap there
-Spanish people are in general, very active practicing people in the Catholic church—more so than Italian and French people  
-They are a lot of Chinese people there
-They start work usually around 9 or 10, eat lunch around 3, take a siesta, eat dinner around 10pm, and go to bed around 1am
-it’s super hot there

Maxime joined back up with me and Marzia.  We drove to Aubagne which is a cute Provence town north of Marseille.  It is actually where the house and chateau of Pagnol are.  We went to a maison de retraite (nursing home) in a beautiful area with lots of green everywhere as well as horses.  We picked up Madame Hernandez who is a sweetheart.  In going to someone’s room at a maison de retraite, you’re never quite sure what is going to be behind those doors and what condition the person will be in.  Madame Hernandez was a pleasant surprise as she was very fit and walked incredibly well and had an excellent working brain.  She has children but they rarely visit her.  She has been married twice, but is currently single.  We took a Madame on a petite sortie (outing) to give her a change of scenery for a while.  We went into the village center of Aubagne and wandered around for a while.  It was a cute small town with small narrow roads.  We learned that Mme Hernandez is an incredible artist and enjoys painting flowers, horses, nature, and people.  She loves ice cream, music, and reading as well as the books and movies of Marcel Pagnol.  We went to a café and had a nice relaxing boisson (drink).  She got ice cream because she has missed it and got a scoop of vanilla and café.  Mme told us stories about her first husband and her crazily strict and controlling Italian mother-in-law.  I learned that during Christmas time in Aubagne, there is a nativity market where people sell all different kinds.  We had fun walking around with her and I hope we get to see her again soon.  Veronique, our petits frères coordinator, told us later that Madame Hernandez used to be an alcoholic and that is why she is out in this maison de retraite that is far away from a main city and is a bit isolated in the countryside.  At maisons de retraites in Marseille, she would go to the bars around the corner and drink too much.    

Today Maxime got brave enough to speak English with me.  His is so accent is just so dang cute when he speaks English.  It still sounds a lot like French and sometimes it’s hard for me to understand him but he did pretty well and knows more than I had previously thought.  It makes me feel better that I sometimes have struggles with forming certain sentences in French when he has trouble in English.  I have been educating Maxime and Marzia in some American slang and will continue to do so.  So far they have learned the golden arches (Mcdonalds), “what’s his bucket”, and “you crack me up”.

So Marzia is already a translator which is her dream eventual profession.  She has an easier time understanding Maxime when he speaks English than I do and so she has to translate for me with what he is saying.  And then Maxime also likes to practice Spanish with Marzia and so she of course has to translate for me then.  She is also super good at understanding old people speaking French and just understanding people in general so she helps me out a lot.  Sometimes though, with the three of us working together, I never know what language is going to come out of anyone’s mouth which gets confusing because I’ll be expecting Maxime to speak French and so I’m in the understanding French mood part of my brain and then he says a phrase in English and I just look at him confused because my brain is not in the understanding English mode.  The three of us have fun together though and get along really well.  Maxime is always willing to answer French questions I have and today he taught me the word for license plate which is plaque d’immatriculation…that second word is quite difficult to wrap my tongue around and so we had some good laughs at me trying to get that word right.  Sometimes when I speak French or he is speaking English, we will say a word and the other one will not understand it…and so the person speaking will either try saying it a couple more times until the person listening gets it.  It’s funny because I’ll say a word and he’ll finally understand and say the word himself…and it will sound exactly the same as what I just said but obviously it’s harder for me to notice the little pronunciation nuances.  But it happens visa versa as well.   

I feel like I had a classic language mix-up moment that it seems every missionary has…at least in every missionary movie.  So we were talking to Veronique our coordinator about a woman that we had visited whose name is Madame Pellanq.  However I could not remember her name very well and then I thought I had remembered it and told Veronique I was talking about Madame Pasteque…which means watermelon!  All the French people in the room had a good laugh at me and I was laughing too in my embarrassment…hahaha.  I’m just grateful I didn’t call Mme Pellanq a watermelon to her face.  It’s ironic because I have had trouble with the word pasteque anyway and can never remember if it is pasteque or pestaque!

I had invited both Marzia and Maxime to come to the Young Adult FHE that night with me.  They both came!  It took us a full hour to get there with our 4 different means of transportation that it took to complete the journey.  We came a half hour late and so had missed the lesson the missionaries had given on service.  But we were there just in time to eat quiche with everyone.  I introduced Maxime to the missionaries and he just started talking to them and asking them questions about their name tags and what they were doing in France and asking questions about the church!  Maxime stood and talked to them asking lots of questions for about 40 minutes bringing up things I had told him about our church and asking further questions about it.  They gave him a brief version of the first discussion and ended up giving him a book of mormon.  Marzia was sitting there the whole time and listened.  They both said they found it really interesting.  I was super impressed with the missionaries and how they were able to answer his questions so well and with analogies and examples that were tailored to apply to French people and their culture to increase their understanding of principles.  I’m glad that Maxime got to talk to them as they are so much better at speaking about the church in French than I am.  Man it makes me want to serve a mission so much more!

 After talking to the missionaries, we all went up to the YSA center area and played lots of rounds of Uno.  I found a Spanish book of mormon and read from it trying to sound legit.  But then I had Marzia read a verse out loud and was put to shame J.  We chatted with Elder and Sister Rutman while we were playing.  I just love them so much and I always find more things I have in common when I talk to Sister Rutman.  She has the hugest, most beautiful collection of jewelry and I told her I want to see her jewelry chest sometime and Elder Rutman assured me that it was huge and they weren’t able to bring a huge chunk of it out on the mission.  I found out that Sister Rutman loves the Sound of Music and so I told her about incredibly beautiful the Sound of Music tour in Salzburg which she had never heard about. I told her it was a necessary sound of music pilgrimage and she would never regret it.  The whole time Elder Rutman was jokingly telling me to stop tell her and said thanks a lot! now we will have to go there!  Haha. 

It was a good night and Marzia and Maxime seemed to have a good time so maybe they’ll keep coming with me and they can actually hear the lesson and such next time.  Marzia facebooked me that night and thanked me for inviting her and said she really liked the atmosphere that was there.  She told me she was planning on coming to the English class that Elder and Sister Rutman invited her to that they hold on Tuesday evenings.  Maxime told  me he had liked all the people he had met and found it all very interesting.  He is still trying to grasp the concept that there are French mormons and I told him he just needed to come to church and then he’d see 200 French mormons!

It has felt so good to share the gospel with them!  Even if it doesn’t go past the point of curiosity for them, I have at least set a good example to them and they know the truth about our church and that we are good, normal people.  Stephanie told me that she thought I would make such a great sister missionary which is a great compliment!  I have definitely found that it is so invigorating and rewarding to share the gospel.  Before Stephanie came to France for the internship, her Dad gave her a father’s blessing and in it he said that Stephanie would have lots of opportunities for missionary work during her internship and that she would be reunited with people that she knew in the preexistence that would later thank her for sharing the gospel with them.  A big assignment to fulfill but we are already seeing it happen as she has also had several opportunities to share the gospel with the people around her. 


13 juillet
Our first visit today was to Madame Cheillan.  She lived in this cité (a big “village” of tall and wide apartment buildings).  I have become quite the master at working the system of opening doors of apartment buildings.  There are several types of room buzzers and different ways of finding the name of the person you want to call.  Some of them have cameras or just a phone call to the room of the person and they talk to you or look at you and press a button in their room to open the building door for you.  It was the first time that Madame Cheillan had been visited by les Petits frères and so we were able to explain what the association was all about and what activities we organized and held.  Madame Cheillan was really good at talking and talking but not very good at listening…we hardly said anything and she just talked and talked which is common when people sit at home by themselves all day every day.  One interesting thing she talked about was how she hated Americans…which made it quite awkward for me sitting there especially since I had previously told her I was American.  She hates Americans because apparently during WWII, the Americans air raided Marseille in September 1944 because it was being occupied by Germans.  Her father was killed during this air raid because he was killed.  He was at work and wasn’t able to get home or get to a bomb shelter quick enough.  I need to look it up on the internet and verify that it was America that bombed Marseille.  Nonetheless, her father was killed which is really sad and is reason enough for her not to feel so kindly towards Americans.  However, I didn’t really know what to say response and so I told her I was sorry she had lost her father and that war is always a terrible thing.  I also reminded her about the thousands Americans that died at Normandy and during all of WWII in trying to liberate France and its people from German occupation.  She had no other option than to agree with me on that point.  It wasn’t a contentious conversation at all, but was just very interesting for me and a different response to my nationality than what I have gotten from most old people here.  Mme Cheillan talked about how there was nothing to eat or drink during the German occupation and that they didn’t go to school, but just kind of wandered around. 

We went to the neighborhood where the person for our next visit lived.  We found a centre commercial to eat lunch.  It is so funny finding lunch with Maxime.  He is so French about eating.  It is necessary to find somewhere proper to sit down and eat.  It is necessary that we evaluate all of our lunch options before finding something that we all decide on.  It is necessary that we all get similar things—he doesn’t get the concept of everyone get what they want and then meet back up to eat…that’s a no go for him.  Anyway, we ended up buying sandwiches at the grocery store that was there and then we found a bench area outside to sit down and eat.  And at least 20 minutes of sitting and doing nothing besides relaxing and talking is necessary after every lunch meal in France…which doesn’t bother me much.  It is always amusing talking to Maxime because he has that common French quality of saying things about other people that Americans wouldn’t tend to say because it’d be so blatant that it’d be rude.  So he finally told me and Marzia today that he had a girlfriend and they’d been dating for 9 months.  He asked me why I didn’t have a boyfriend…which kind of was a weird question to me.  Because it seemed to him like something that I had complete control over which is not how it seems to me.  I didn’t really know what to respond and told him that I hadn’t found anyone I liked enough yet.  Then he told me that when he first saw me, he was shocked because I look a lot like his girlfriend—he said we have the same color eyes, the same style of dressing, the same skin color, and the same hair color…kind of awkward for me and I didn’t really know what to say so I just laughed.  Also, Marzia and Maxime think my Chacos are ugly! Ha.  I thought about it and realized how they did probably look super weird to them because they are not at all European and there doesn’t really exist an outdoorsy hippie style in Europe.  Maxime also asked me what my “type” was for a guy…again I didn’t know what to say…he is just really good at asking questions like this like it is no big deal at all.  I didn’t know how to explain this type of thing to him…and so copped out with basic things like tall, smart, respectful, and such.  He wouldn’t ever understand qualities that I look for such as honors the priesthood, would be an initiative-taking family leader, or be a good dad…more gospely qualities like that.  Us 3 have a good time always laughing, talking, and making fun of each other.  We had a conversation today about what romance is.  Marzia and I believed in the stereotype that French men are romantic…but that is wrong.  Maxime thinks romance is taking his girlfriend to an expensive restaurant and paying for it…..wrong!  He asked me what I thought romance was and I said it is an ability to express the beautiful emotion of love in a beautiful way that could be through words, gifts, music, gestures, acts…etc.

We went back into the centre commercial and bought a cake, candles, and a bouquet of flowers to take on our visit to Madame Daumas because it had been her birthday just a few days earlier.  It was quite an adventure finding her apartment though.  We were walking down the side of this 4 lane road when we witnessed a robbery.  There were these two teenage boys on a moped.  The boy on the back jumped off the bike, ran to the car that was waiting at the red light just behind them, reached in through the front seat window that was about ¼ of the way rolled down, grabbed the woman that was in the driver seat’s gold necklace, ripped it off her neck, then ran and jumped on the back of the scooter and they sped away.  It happened so fast and I couldn’t really believe what I had just seen happen had happened.  The woman in the car turned around to go after the boys, but they were long gone and I doubt she ever was able to find them.  Seeing this robbery happen after being warned about things like that in Marseille so many times kind of shook up me and Marzia.  But we had no other option than to keep walking to find Mme.  We could not figure out where this apartment complex was that we were searching for…Maxime asked this one lady and she offered to drive us there.  As soon as we got in the car to take us there, she warned us about the area and said it was not very safe and we shouldn’t be out walking.  Ya we already knew that, but it made everything a bit scarier.  Every moped I saw, I kept thinking it was the robber boys.  The lady took us to the apartment building and we went and found Mme Daumas.  Mme Daumas was overjoyed and so happy when we gave her the pretty pink gerber daisies and told her we were there to celebrate her birthday with her.  We got all the candles set up on the cake and then it took a bunch of tries to blow out the candles, poor thing!  The cake was half a fruit cake and half a chocolate cake…and was delicious of course.  Madame Daumas also warned us the dangerousness of the area and told us how she almost got accosted at her apartment by letting this man in that said he was apartment shopping and wanted to look in.  She let him in the apartment complex door because he sounded nice and looked nice.  But then she had a bad feeling when she saw the man at her door and didn’t let him in.  She found out later that the same thing had happened her neighbor except that her neighbor had let the man inside her apartment and the man grabbed her wallet on the table and ran away.  It was super hard for all 3 of us to understand Madame because she was missing lots of teeth and was really bad at articulating her words and so we did a lot of smiling and nodding.  She is another one that just loves to talk and talk and would probably have talked to us for 3 more hours if we hadn’t said that we had to leave.  After the visit, Maxime commented on how tiring it was to sit there for over an hour and focus all your brain power on understanding what she said and I told him don’t worry, that is what it is like for me all day every day! 

I went back with Marzia to her hotel room and used the internet and hung out with her before it was time to go the church for the movie night.  She is such a sweetie and we love talking and hanging out.  She ended up asking me lots of questions about the church and my standards.  She asked questions about the law of chastity and why I wanted to obey it.  She asked me why I wanted to marry and date Mormon people as well.  She was going to come with me to the movie night but then her roommate ended up having an emotional crisis and she stayed to be with her.  I went to the movie night and we watched The Two Towers, the extended version.  Oh man it was long—almost 4 hours.  I haven’t seen the first one and so Jared had to fill me on who basically everyone was and why they were doing what they were doing.    I kind of dreaded having to watch this movie for so long and wished it was safe to explore the city on my own, but I actually ended up enjoying and getting into the movie so that it didn’t feel like it lasted almost 4 hours. 

Mindy, Jacqueline (BYU students doing the same internship in Toulon) came with Stephanie to see the end of the movie.  Then we all drove back in the car that we had rented for the weekend back to our apartment.  It was crazy how it only took like 10 minutes to drive back where it took almost an hour when we take public transportation.  It’s always funny hanging out with these 3 because I feel so young and inexperienced since they have all served missions and are almost done with school…but I learn a lot and they treat me as an equal so it all works out.             


14 juillet
Ever since I learned about Bastille Day, the French national holiday, in 8th grade, it has been one of my dream’s to be in France during a Bastille day.  Bastille day celebrates the day that the French revolutionaries stormed the Bastille prison/arms storage place/castle in 1789 and was the straw that broke the camel’s back that propelled the French revolution.  Surprisingly, a lot of the French people I talked to didn’t seem super excited about the holiday and told me that they didn’t really have any plans or didn’t really do anything.  But still, I enjoyed this holiday with the French people that did celebrate it.  The four of us woke up at 6 in the morning to leave for Carcassonne.  I have also really wanted to go to Carcassonne ever since I found out it was a real French city, not just the game that my dad and brothers play on their iphones.  It was about 3 hours to Carcassonne.  I slept for the first hour but then watched out the window the rest of the time at the beautiful countryside on my right and the Mediterranean on my left.  We passed lots of vineyards and rolling green hills.  We also passed lots of cute little villages each with an old church at the center of town.  Every once in a while we’d pass a village with a big cathedral or a big abby that was beautiful.  We saw several castles up on hills too.  When we got to Carcassonne, we were only 30 minutes from the border of Spain!  Too bad we didn’t have time to stop over there…someday I’ll get to Spain J.  I started freaking out just when I saw the signs pointing to Carcassonne and freaked out even more when I got my first glimpse of the fortress walls. 

Okay, so basically Carcassonne is the coolest, best preserved, biggest, tallest, best medieval castle/medieval fortress/medieval city.  It just compares to no other castle I’ve ever seen.  It legit felt like I was in Sleeping Beauty or Robin Hood walking around those fortress walls.  We followed the Rick Steve’s walking tour and learned about the different people that had lived there which includes Romans, Arabs, and the French.  It was cool that all of the fortress walls had the typical castle wall border on top.  It was also cool to see the slits for soldiers to shoot their arrows through as well as the holes for pouring hot oil out on people.  There were so many beautiful turrets with the orange tiling on top.  The pictures are incredible…but they just do it justice!  We walked around and had fun taking pictures.  We also went into the beautiful cathedral that is there.  There were lots of little shops and restaurants in the city.  Of course there were medieval costume and medieval toy stores as well as chocolate and candy stores.  I hate a ham and cheese crepe for lunch since I hadn’t one of those since Paris!  Outside the cathedral in this plaza area, there was a group that included a man playing guitar and another playing violin.  The music was so beautiful and set such a beautiful atmosphere in that medieval cobblestone plaza with a gorgeous gothic cathedral right behind me.  It reminded of the music  that we danced to at our Madrigal Feast in high school and so I started doing some medieval dancing steps…ha and the three other girls joined in and we had this special moment with all of us dancing and putting our hands together in a circle and walking around.  That lasted about 5 seconds as we realized how dumb we must look…ha but it was so fun while it lasted J.            

Next we went and saw the castle!  It was sooo cool and looked so legit.  Rick Steve informed us that this was the castle where they had filmed the real people Robin Hood film!  I will definitely have to go watch that movie when I get home (as well as the animated Robin Hood and the movie A Knight’s Tale).  We decided to go into the castle after we went to the jousting tournament.  I made some quality purchases in Carcassonne, including gifts for the last few people on my to get a gift for list.  I bought a cool medieval vest/armor thing that I pictured David in for the dress up closet.  (I also bought a belly dancing scarf and headband in Israel for the dress up closet that I pictured Rachel and Bethany in…and probably David tooJ!  And I bought French hats in Paris for the dress up closet…but don’t tell the kids because I want to surprise them with these new dress up closet additions.)  I also bought a pin to add to my pin collection of course.

Next was the jousting tournament!  This was possibly one of the coolest, most memorable experiences of my life.  I thought medieval times in Dallas was cool, but this was 1000 times cooler.    The backdrop was the fortress itself and the riders and horses were decked out in medieval garb.  It was also a little play as well as tournament with the horse attendants and such as characters involved in the story with the riders.  There was also a king and queen there watching the tournament.  It was a bit difficult to understand all that the people said, especially when they would speak through a microphone and it would echo.  But I got the gist of it with what I understood and with watching the actors.  Each of the jousters had their own personalities and region they represented.  There was a rider that was “from Britain” and they made some good English jokes including the classic “Where is Brian, Brian is in the kitchen” joke.  The horse riders showed off some of their skills by riding by and picking up rings, riding by and slicing an apple in half, and riding by while bending down off the horse to pick up scarves that were on the ground.  Then there was the jousting tournament and it was exactly like it is in movies!  I loved when the riders would make contact with the other rider’s shield and wood pieces would go flying everywhere.  After the riding towards each other match happened, then the two riders would engage in ground combat using either swords or axes.  The riders got into it and had us cheering for them and rooting them onto win.  There was also an inner plot going on where this Arab woman had been captured and was being held hostage, but then her brother, a prince of an Arab country, came and fought and beat the champion jouster which released his sister.  The whole jousting tournament just all felt so legit, and magical, and real.  Winner activity!

We went back and toured the castle which was cool.  We saw some of the fireworks out the window on the ledge in preparation for that night.  But at this point, I had gotten a massive headache and so walked through it quite quickly so that I could get out to get some food and water.  Stephanie and I split a whole baguette and I went a bought a Carcassonne sweatshirt since it was getting pretty chilly and it I expected it to get even that cooler that night.  So yes, I was that dumb tourist that wore a shirt of the current location…ha ha but it couldn’t be helped.  We went and ate dinner at a restaurant that took lunch checks and had pizza and pasta.  We left the old city/fortress of Carcassonne and headed over to the new city to find a spot to watch the fireworks.  And oh my goodness was it crowded.  There were thousands of people everywhere!  People had been camping out for hours to get a good seat for this renowned firework show.  It was extremely difficult to make our way through all of these people.  We had to cross Pont Neuf and it was just packed.  It took us about 45 minutes to get over this bridge because we were just smashed like sardines and there were even times when the moving mass would just stop moving and no one would know why.  Some people were pushy but others laughed like us at the craziness of the situation.  We finally made it past the bridge and walked around looking for the best vantage point.  We found a good spot and stood for a while playing Go Fish, waiting for the show to start which ended up being around 10:45 since it doesn’t get dark until about 10. 

And oh my word.  Most incredible firework show EVER.  They shot off all of the fireworks from the fortress and the fortress was lit up below it.  At one point during the half hour show, they changed the lighting on the fortress to this hazy pink/red color and lots of smoke came rising up to make it look like it was burning!  And it looked so real, that I was worried for a bit that some of the fireworks had caught fire.  But no, the show continued and was just so beautiful.  So many fireworks of so many colors, designs, sizes, and patterns.  There were some fireworks that made the shape of a heart, others that made the shape of a smiley face, and others that made the shape of a star.  I took lots of pictures trying to get some good pictures and ended up getting several good ones! There was one point where big streams of white fireworks came streaming down off of the fortress walls.  There was another point where they started some fireworks shooting off of one side of the fortress wall, then slowly worked its way out across the city wall until there fireworks shooting off the whole side of the wall facing us.  The finale lasted like 5 minutes, and I’m pretty I was sighing and exclaiming the whole time at the beauty of it all.  The crowd would all sigh/gasp/clap at the same times when something particularly beautiful happened or when there was a pause in the show.  The pictures don’t do justice to the grandeur of it all.  I don’t know if I’ll ever see another firework show that could beat that one.

We got some Magnum ice cream bars to make it a perfect finish to a perfect and extremely memorable day.  And then oh man, the journey home.  It was a bit like my Israel/Italy/France getting back marathon…or at least had similar feelings of complete exhaustion and loss of brain power.  So we left around 11:30 and it took two hours just to get out of Carcassonne which should have taken us about 10 minutes…there were just thousands and thousands of other people trying to get out as well.  So it’s about 1:30 now and we’re finally on the autoroute to head back home when we realize we need to get gas.  We get to a gas station and realize that this station only takes the European type of credit card and no cash.  A tender mercy happened and this sweet teenage boy came to get gas at the same time.  We asked him if we could give him cash for our gas if he could pay for it on his card.  Happily he agreed, and took care of us.  Honestly, I dozed off for the majority of the rest of the drive home…I just could not stay awake!  But Stephanie was able to stay up the whole time to drive us home and the other two girls took shifts in singing songs and talking with her…they are incredible…and I feel bad that I fell asleep, but that is just how it worked out.  We got into Marseille at about 5:30am as the sun was rising and I was put in charge of navigating in Marseille and getting us back to our apartment since I have the best general idea of the layout of Marseille.  In my half asleep state, it was a blessing that we were able to find our apartment perfectly with no wrong turns or wasted time.  I tried to direct Stephanie back to our apartment from the same starting point the next day, and had quite a difficult time so I know it was such a blessing that I was able to do that early Sunday morning.  We were blessed in so many ways on our journey home.  If we had known it was going to be that crazy of a journey back home, we would have stayed the night in Carcassonne.  We sludged up to the apartment at 5:30 in the morning, changed and brushed our teeth as fast as we were capable and crashed into bed to try and get a few hours of sleep before church which would start at 9:30.                   


15 juillet
It was a true struggle to get up at 8:30 to get ready to go to church.  But we knew we had to go because was Stephanie was giving the relief society lesson that would happen during the first hour of church.  We all seriously felt like zombies with little rational brain power and so we made it through church thanks to prayers we offered for energy.  Stephanie gave a great coherent lesson which was obviously due to some divine help considering the miserable night she had had the night before.  I helped her with the lesson and she had previously asked me to talk about sharing the gospel with the people I work with since the lesson was on missionary work.  I talked for a little bit to everyone and it went well!  Sunday school and sacrament meeting was a struggle to stay awake and seemed to last about 5 hours each.  Oh and every prayer seemed to last about 6 minutes at least.

After church we drove back to our apartment and then took Mindy and Jacqueline to the train station for them to go home.  Then Stephanie and I, still feeling exhausted and brain dead, went to fill up with gas and then returned the car.  It felt good to have the car returned back without any damage or accident.  Then we came home, ate, and crashed with a 7 hour nap.  We woke up about 10 and got some things done, but then went back to sleep around midnight.    


16 juillet

This morning started out with a planning session with Veronique at the manier.  We reported on how visits had gone last week and what visits we would do this week.  We fill out these papers for each person that we visit and just note how they were doing and what occurred during the visit.  Maxime filled out some of them and afterwards Marzia and I found grammar mistakes in his writing which made our day!  He had written Nous sommes allé and had forgotten the s at the end of the last word which is a grammar rule that has been drilled into my head.  Also he had written On l’a ammené au centre ville and the l’ represented la and so he had forgotten the extra e at the end of ammené because he was talking about something feminine.  It was funny as Marzia and I explained the grammar rule to them of how one must make agreement in the verb if there is a preceding direct object…I can still hear Ms. B’s voice saying that same rule to us over and over again.  What was funny was that Maxime and Veronique didn’t believe us and had to look it up on the internet to verify that we were right.  Ha!

We made lots of phone calls to set up appointments for the week.  Then we drove to a bakery to get lunch to bring back to eat at the manier.  I can’t figure out if Maxime is just a weird, not normal person or if all French boys are like this.  But today, out of the blue he told me I had a pretty nose….ha!  Americans just don’t say blunt things like that…He told me that it was very straight and symmetrical…I felt very awkward but told him thank you because I didn’t know what else to say.  Later as we were sitting at lunch, he remarked to the other young guy sitting there asking him if he didn’t think that I had a pretty nose that was all straight and symmetrical…..so awkward!  He even went so far as to tell me that even though I resembled his girlfriend, I had a prettier nose than her.  Hahahahahaha.  He’s a strange guy, or just very French….I’ll never know. 

We went and visited Madame Colonna d’Ornano.  We chatted for a while and then she showed us the pictures of the Calanques that were in her hallway.  We visited one of her neighbors which was a man that is super into history and family history.  He made sure I knew who Marquis Lafayette was and told me that Lafayette had named his son Washington.  I told him that I lived in a town called Fayetteville that was named after Lafayette.  Madame Colonna didn’t want us to leave and kept trying to find things to have us do or have but we couldn’t stay there all day, even though she would have loved that I bet.

Today I taught Marzia the phrase “keep it on the down low” which means keep it a secret.  Everytime we drive by McDonalds she calls it the golden arches and is proud of herself J.  I tried to explain to Maxime and Marzia today about how it was in my eventual plans to stay home and be a mom and not always be working.  They couldn’t believe I was serious and said that women in Europe wanted to be liberated from their role as just moms…but I guess most women in the world, including the US think this way too. 

Tonight I had a salmon and spinach quiche from a bakery for dinner, super good.  Stephanie and I tried to go do laundry, but it was closed when we got there.